We all have been at some point in our lives where it seems like how everyone else is doing good in their lives,busy in catching their lucky breaks and getting everything that we had always wanted from life while we seem to be screwing everything up.
It’s a common perpetual bias. While we look at others succeed, we never look at them struggling and going through countless failures, We just look at them striking gold and do big in life. And when it comes to ourselves, we are all aware of the toil and struggle we endured thus making success look even more far-fetched. And we continue to play this game through our entire life.
This is where the concept of luck originates from and perceptual bias has a big role to play in this. Luck is essentially a way through which we explain how someone’s success defies mathematical probability just because they have it all and you fail to accomplish any of these.
However, the truth lies far off from it. Across the entire spectrum of a lifetime, we all receive opportunity and disadvantages in almost equal doses. Yes, some of us get a head start by being born in a perfect environment that boosts them up. And some are born into unpropitious conditions, but life also gives them equal opportunities as they grow up.
The significant thing we get wrong about life is that we need something to be happy. The problem doesn’t start with what we are already born with. The problem starts when we try to exceed our expectations and aim for bigger things in life. This is where discontentment originates from. And this is also the reason why almost everyone is happy at the place they are born in. A person living in a shredded house is as happy as a millionaire living in a duplex. Disappointment originates when they try to grow from their original places.
We often believe luck has an important role to play in someone’s success, but it’s actually the amount of opportunities that we get in our lives. For some, it’s plenty and for some, it just seems to keep running away. And you would agree, some people are “luckier” than others.Although it’s hard to define what “luck” really is, this is how you can make your own luck:
Be socially open:
It’s pure mathematics. Consider two balloons flying in an open sky. What are the chances of them ever meeting? Very less right? Now, take those take balloons in a small room? The chances of them colliding now would increase right, wouldn’t they? What if there are a larger number of balloons? It would become even easier. The same goes for luck. The more connected you are to people, the higher chances you have of being lucky. Most of the life’s opportunities don’t land on us mysteriously. They come through our networks, our connections, people we stumble across at random.
We have often seen that people who keep doing the same work for all their lives never ever get their fair share of luck and the ones we often called stupid for doing something random turned out to be “lucky”. Consider this for an instance. You are working in a 9-5 job and bored of the monotonicity and despite wanting to do something big, you are never able to do so. Once you quit your job with no plans in your head, you would certainly be called stupid. But that would also mean, you are open to new things in life and since you have all the time to pursue it, you can actually go “lucky”. What is commonly perceived as luck is often merely someone who wasn’t afraid to screw up a few dozen times?
Be highly optimistic:
It’s a known fact optimism brings along with itself a load of other benefits too. Research suggests that optimistic people consistently expect themselves to be better than what they really are, creating a delusional bias. What advantage does it have? For starters, an over-optimistic person would identify a lot of positives even in an area which hardly has any. That gives them an advantage of doing good when everyone else has clearly failed.
Another clear advantage of optimism is that you keep on going even if you have failed a lot of times because you know the target is attainable. This gives them a fair idea of what they are doing wrong and hence, they improve with each passing attempt, thus finally give handing them gold.
Of course, You can never really anticipate what’s working for you and what’s not, these techniques might act as catalyst and could help you a big deal in getting “lucky”.