Be it a heartbreak, failure or an endless suffering, there is always a phrase that follows:
You need to let it go. Just forget what happened and move on with your life.
We all have said/heard this at some point in our lives. No matter how easy it sounds on paper, it is almost impossible to implement it perfectly in our lives.
It’s not easy to forget the past, it’s not easy to let go of a situation or an event that’s running continuously in your head.
And well, if it was easy, wouldn’t you had done it by now? No one likes to live a life full of pain, sorrow, and misery. The truth is that it is a myth of letting go. We can not possibly let go of any situation because we are hard-wired like that.
Our life is made up of countless emotions, sensations, thoughts, beliefs and experiences that shape us to be what we are today. When we talk about letting go of these, we, in short, are letting go of every experience that has made us. These experiences have made you the person you are today. Be it good or bad, you don’t have the magic wand in your hand to erase your past.
Let go the idea of letting go!
You have to let go of the idea of letting go.
When you attempt to let go, all you are doing is raging a war inside yourself, a war where you aim to burn the devil but end up burning yourself.
Until you learn the procedure of rewiring your brains, there is hardly any way for you to let go of your past.
This is what you should do instead!
- Embrace the beauty of everything around you: Let it stay. Let everything that’s happening to you be like it. Feel the beauty of everything. Embrace the moment and let it touch you with wide open arms of awareness. When you choose to let go, you make too hard an effort of fixing everything which eventually turns out like putting back the pieces of a broken vase with various small pieces scattered everywhere. No matter how hard you try, you can never be back to what you were. Time has changed and so have you. You need to start accepting that. You need to be confident about your past and whatever comes across you in the future.
- Let love heal you: When you choose the path of letting go, you let yourself float in a river of negativity. You let yourself surrounded by the sharks which come to bite you in the form of your poor past experiences. It bites you over and over to the point where you are accustomed to the pain, and you say, “I have finally moved on”. This path is tough and yet most of us choose to follow this. Another way to actually get along with your life is with love. The path of love doesn’t have any thorns and it doesn’t hurt either. Love is accepting and love is liberating. With love, you clearly understand the importance of peace. With love, you know there is no force outside of yourself that can make you happy. With love, you let yourself free from all the negativity and accept yourself as the person you are.
Because with love, you are already free.