When was the last time you were utterly honest to yourself? When was the last time you didn’t have a blame someone else for your failures? When was the last time you did something that pushed you out of the usual? When was the last time you broke your average daily routine to do things that you actually love?
Do you feel blank for most of these questions? Don’t worry. Most of us are in the same phase as you. And the ones who are able to break these barriers are the people who have achieved amazing things in life. And it’s quite understandable. Change is hard. It represents a threat, a chance for things to go wrong. And it’s no surprise that people avoid anything that smells of change.
It’s often said that all our problems lie in our head. And it’s actually the hardest thing to change our mind. Our mind craves a routine and something that is regular. We naturally navigate towards our safe zone trying to make us feel better and comfortable with the unsettling truth. And this is where the core of mediocrity lies in.
Is there any way out?
Our minds get bored with things that are very usual or regular. This is the reason schools these days employ playful methods to teach different concepts to kids. Can we do that here too? A game that can elevate you to another level of confidence is always appreciated.
Let’s play truth or dare!
You know the rules of this game. Once you opt for truth, you would have to give an honest answer, however, attrocius it is and if you opt for the dare, you would need to do whatever you are again. There are few changes in the game, though. You would be playing this game with yourself and this game would only involve questions that are related to you.
Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.” — Denis Waitley
The whole idea of questioning yourself revolves around being honest. Because we are not. We lie to ourselves much more than we think. And it’s on a daily basis. Remember when you couldn’t reach your office on time? You conveniently blamed it on your driver. And when you cou;don’t pass your exams? You conveniently blamed the professor or some external factors. And it’s not just you. It’s all of us. We all do it and this is what we need to improve on by being honest with ourselves. This takes practice. Since we are all so habituated with lying to ourselves to make ourselves feel better, it won’t be rectified in a single go. Take your time but start. These are some subtle lies we need to stop telling ourselves.
Comfort is just an illusion. Get over it!
Alan Henry of Lifehacker explains:
“The idea of the comfort zone goes back to a classic experiment in psychology. Back in 1908, psychologists Robert M. Yerkes and John D. Dodson explained that a state of relative comfort created a steady level of performance. In order to maximize performance, however, we need a state of relative anxiety — a space where our stress levels are slightly higher than normal.This space is called “Optimal Anxiety,” and it’s just outside our comfort zone.
One thing that always kills creativity and promotes mediocrity is comfort. And it is a silent killer, a sweet drug which moulds you into addiction and shifts you into the world of mediocrity. And this is what you don’t want. You have to be different. You have to be successful and for this, you would have to give up comfort. Discomfort is what paves your growth. And this is how you explore new paths, ideas, disciplines and success. Dare yourself to look beyond the horizon and you would know success.