Just a few days back, Mark Zuckerberg announced on his Facebook page with this beautiful picture and today, he was graced with birth of a beautiful daughter. He also announced that he would be taking a 2 months paternity leave as they are getting ready for their daughter’s arrival.
It might come up as a surprise for some and an amazingly great move for others. Not many of us have known about this. We all know how childbirth influences the mother physically and why is she required at all times, but the concept of paternal leave has been sprouting up lately major companies like Facebook and Netflix doing the same. Facebook, in fact, allows its employees to take four months leave during the birth of their child irrespective of gender.
However, not all of us get the chance to work in mainstream companies like Facebook and Netflix and paternity leave is still a stigma among the society which needs to be addressed. Besides that, most of the companies do not consider the concept of paternal leave to be viable. According to the nonprofit Families and Work Institute, 58 percent of U.S. companies offer paid time off for new mothers, while only 14 percent offer the same to new fathers.
Former CNN journalist says, “There’s federal guidance now that says yes, women should get leave for physical recovery from childbirth. However, any leave that is actually given to take care of the child has to be gender-neutral,”
Despite all these agendas and policies, the most basic question comes up.
Why do Fathers need Paternal leave?
- It increases bonding between the child and father: Childhood is that time when your mind acts like a sponge. It absorbs all the information it goes through and starts to process its reality through that. This is the time when the father and mother can create an impact onto the child’s mind and help it shape accordingly. Wouldn’t you love to be a part of that reality where your newborn can learn and process information from both its parents? This is the most crucial time for creating a beautiful relationship between you and your child. So, shut the blinds, kill those taboos and start bonding with your child.
- Increase in the number of nuclear Families: With the increasing concept of Nuclear family, it is almost impossible for a mother to take care of her child completely. Yeah, there are several day care centres, but do you really want to do that? After the birth of a child, you really do understand that two hands are just not enough, but with the help of the father, things can definitely smoothen out. It’s as important for dads as it is for mum to understand what their contribution will be in this new world order.
- A lot of anxiety has to be dealt with: Childbirth is a life changing experience not just for the mother, but for the entire family. With the addition of a new member to the family, comes along several other questions, like “How will we manage?” “Can we take good care of the child?” and many others. Amidst all these doubts, there are some particular worries related to that small life, taking care of it at every possible moment since it’s so fragile. You wouldn’t want to leave it alone. You want to take care of it. Just do it.
- Because you want it: Let’s get to the most obvious reason now. It’s because you are tired and sleepy and you just want this leave. Playing hide and seek with sleep all day long, your child finally realises that nighttime is the best time to play around. But what can you do? You have to wake up and play along. With these sleepless nights and tiring days, you do not want to go to work. Just don’t. You deserve this leave.