There is a fun game circulating on the Internet right now. It’s called ” Why my opinion is a perfect one!”. The rules are very simple. You don’t have to listen to what the other party is saying, and once your opposition is done explaining themselves, throw their opinion in the trash and talk about how your opinion is the only thing that makes sense. And these opinions can range from “Batman vs Superman sucks!” to “Modi is the greatest leader. Everyone else sucks!”
The most common reply to an opinion is ” I can’t believe you are on that team. Can’t you see the truth?” which is basically saying, “Why can’t you look the world in the same way I do?” And this is where we get everything wrong. Our assumption that everything is going to think the same way as we do and hold the same opinion causes the biggest trouble.
In psychology, the idea that everyone is like us is called the “false-consensus bias.” This bias often manifests itself when we see TV ratings or in politics where you could see a large number of people having the exact same opinion as you, which of course never paints the entire picture.
And it’s human nature to be attracted to other humans or society holding the same thinking principle as ours. That makes us even more confident in our beliefs. And when it comes to online business, we are blindsided by the opinions of our friends or, more broadly, the entire nation. With the passage of time, this morphs into a subconscious belief that we and our friends are the sane ones and that there’s a crazy “Other Side” that must be laughed at — the Other Side that just doesn’t “get it,” and is clearly not as intelligent as “us.”
When we meet someone who is “not on our side”, our first reaction is always to dismiss him off as “dumb”. If that doesn’t suffice, we resort to bigger measures like name calling, abusing or even threating the other side.
It doesn’t make you a genius but makes the world a bad place!
Your entire underlying assumption of you being the correct one wouldn’t make you any more intelligent than you actually are. But it does something even worse. Standing in this echo chamber, where we all have convinced ourselves to be great, we are creating a world of hatred. It’s always good to have your own opinions, in fact, this ability of ours make us an intelligent species. However, not listening to the other side of argument makes you crawl down the evolutionary scale and create a world of hatred and violence where we all are so much bound by our beliefs that any question or objection triggers us to raise abuses and violence.
What should be done?
On Twitter and Facebook, We prioritize by sharing stuff that will garner approval of our peers than to look at “the true story”. We believe in stuff that ignores wider realities and focuses on things we want to see. This illusion, in turn, makes us turn a blind eye towards what’s right or wrong.
In order to be unbiased towards the truth, we need to keep our ears open. We need to listen to another side of the argument, and if it sounds pleasingly better, let go of our egos and change your opinion based on facts. And even if it turns out that you are the one who holds an advantage, never choose the path of hatred or violence to prove your point. Always remember.
Your opposition is not dumb